business, personal development, time management

Figuring Out My Priorities aka Adulting

It’s been a while since my last post; spring is always an extremely busy time for our family, my business, and life in general! I’ve also been doing a lot of thinking, soul searching, and giving myself some tough love. And maybe a few of you can relate to what I am going through, so I decided to write about it!

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So…I am a people pleaser…it’s in my blood, I have been that way my entire life. I like to help people, I like to be there for people, I like to do ALL THE THINGS! I say yes to almost everything that is asked of me. Some people might think it’s because I want people to like me, and when I was younger, yes that was probably the case. Nowadays I could honestly give a shit about what anyone thinks of me. I am super secure in who I am, I have amazing family and friends, and a great community of business acquaintances and supportive women. I just honestly like doing things with others, especially if it is interesting or helps people!

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Last month, I had a session with my energy healer, Leigh Hurst from Purposeful Living Healing Center, and I was talking to her about all the things I was involved in. On top of being a full-time mom and wife, I run my own business from home (Arbonne), I have a leadership position with my local women’s connection company (PolkaDot Powerhouse), I help run a self-care group for local moms (Mom Mondays), I am the PTO president at my son’s elementary school along with being the parent representative for the school leadership committee. I also have this blog, and I am a monthly contributor for Reno Moms Blog. Whew! So, I was talking about all of this, and letting Leigh know how I really enjoyed everything I was doing, nothing was horrible or unpleasant, but I felt unfocused and stretched too thin. She completely agreed with me and asked me if she could be truthful, which is hilarious, because I tell her she is the Truth Hammer! I said of course, cause I knew she would tell me anyways! That is why I seek out her services, because I know she will tell me the truth no matter what, no sugar coating, and sometimes you need that kick in the ass!

She told me that although I enjoyed everything I was doing, while I was talking about it all, my entire body language shifted, my energy became more positive, excitement and passion came out when I was telling her about my Arbonne business. And I know in my heart that Arbonne is my passion. Helping change others lives, whether it’s through our business opportunity, getting their health on track, changing their skin, or giving them confidence that they had either lost or never had, is THE MOST amazing thing I have ever done (besides raising my boys and loving my Mister). I just get caught up in self doubt that I am not doing enough, so I end up trying to do way too much. I was never a motivated person growing up because I was so lost and had no confidence, so now if I feel a little lull in my life, I start volunteering and saying YES TO ALL THE THINGS! Anyone relate?

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After my amazing talking session and energy/sound healing table work, I left Leigh’s shop feeling light and airy and focused! But then it was back to life, and a few days later I had such a sense of dread, because I knew that I needed to cut back on things, but I HATE disappointing others and I have a relationship with the Guilt Monster. You know the one…he SUCKS! So I put it off….and I put it off some more…and maybe a few more days…and finally, I realized I needed to put my big girl panties on, quit making up stories in my head about people being upset with me, and figure out what I needed to do so I could put my focus back into my business and my family. And really, it just needed to be small changes.

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So a few of the tough decisions I made are:

I am giving up my admin involvement in the mommy self care group, although I will be a participant for sure, because it is such an amazing offering in our community.

I am going to step down from my leadership position with PolkaDot Powerhouse, which I feel ok with, because I served for over a year and I think there are some amazing gals that should be given the opportunity to put their mark on our group.

PTO elections will be happening this month for next year, so I will be stepping down as president. Of course I will still be on the PTO, because I do love being involved with my son’s school.

As for my blogging, I am going to keep up on that, because Leigh and I agreed that writing is a form of self care for me and it helps me process my thoughts and my abundantly blessed life!

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And of course, the stories I was making up about the people who I had to “let down”, were completely false. Everyone was so supportive and understanding, which I should know because they are amazing people. And I realize that it’s not a complete goodbye to these things, it’s just a little step back so I can sharpen my laser beam focus. With summer coming up, the kids being out of school, and so many activities, I have to be extra organized and in tune with my family and clients. This will give me that extra bit of space that I needed; that breathing room that will help me be the best me to everyone!

Going forward, I will be focusing on building my business into something that will provide for my family, retire my husband, give us time freedom, and above all, help others to do the same. I’m absolutely in love with my company, even after 5 years of hills and valleys, and I have the vision of what is to come and it excites me. If you are curious about what I do or curious about our amazing products for the entire family, please fill out this awesome form! If you know anyone who may be looking for something different to do in their lives, send them my way! And if you see me in real life and hear that I am piling on a bunch of things, please call me out and slap me back to my senses!

If you are interested in learning more about Purposeful Living Healing Center, please check out Leigh’s website or Facebook page! They have amazing offerings of classes (in person and online), online blogs, meditation, retreats and other community resources along with Leigh’s amazing healing sessions! Her sessions have completely changed me as a person, and I am so grateful we have someone like her in our Reno Community!

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personal development, social marketing

Thoughts After GTC

So, a lot of companies have training conferences every year, where employees get together for lots of training packed into a few days. Arbonne does this as well, but it’s a little different than something corporate. I look forward to these couple of days ALL YEAR LONG, because Arbonne pulls out the stops and creates a jam packed conference full of awesome training, TONS of inspiration and personal development, and best of all, NEW PRODUCT LAUNCHES! Every year, it gets better, as the staff over at Arbonne tries to beat what they did the year before. And this year was just beyond amazing!

First of all, our conference takes place in Vegas, which is such a blessing, because people from all over the world travel for this event, and it’s in my state, a short 1 hour flight, or a long 7 hour drive away! And Vegas in April is usually gorgeous in the weather department, so you can count on some pool time! The conference takes place at the MGM Grand between the conference center and the Grand Garden Arena, right in the heart of the Vegas Strip, so there’s tons of restaurants and activities, if you want to take a few days before or after the event to explore.

One of my favorite parts of GTC is that I get to see so many people that I love from all over, and I get to meet new people! Our team is located all over the United States, so this is a great time to visit and hug team members that you usually only get to see on FB or over Zoom video conference. This year I even got to meet a few consultants who are members of my networking company, Polka Dot Powerhouse! And anyone who is part of Arbonne can tell you that the consultants who attend GTC are super friendly and love getting to know new people! I get to make new friends and build more awesome friendships each year that I go! It’s so fun!

A few months before GTC, our Arbonne book club read The 5 Second Rule, by Mel Robbins. Well, I can’t tell you how excited we were to learn that she would be our outside speaker this year! She is the #1 booked female speaker in the world, and she absolutely rocked the house, I will write more about that later. But for now, if you have not read her book, you NEED TO! Here is a link to purchase from Amazon (this is an affiliate link, so if you purchase I will make a little money), and there is even a journal you can get to work on while you are reading it!

Book: The 5 Second Rule by Mel Robbins

Journal: The 5 Second Rule Workbook

Arbonne utilizes it’s own successful consultants for most of our speakers throughout the convention, and I am always SO impressed with the content and the caliber of our speakers. Even Mel Robbins was blown away by the talent that our consultants have when it comes to speaking and inspiring a crowd of 16,000+ live and over 7,000 who tuned in virtually. And this year, my 4th GTC, I have to say, was the best I have seen yet.

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ENVP Missy Wilson

One of my favorites was ENVP Missy Wilson. Her topic was the ABC’s of Owning Your Future, and the notes that I took could help anyone who is in business for themselves, whether it’s social marketing or a brick and mortar company. Some of the highlights:

*Don’t chase success, Attract it.

*It is more important to be interested, than interesting.

*You MUST circulate to percolate.

*Belief has a sound. Can your prospects and clients hear it in your voice? You must believe in your products, your company, your industry, and most of all (and probably hardest), yourself.

*Brick and Mortar is being replaced by Click and Order!

*Things can be managed, but people must be led.

*Protect your mindset and your priorities. Your priorities will keep you balanced and help you not get burned out.

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ENVP Eunice Ray

Another stand out to me was ENVP Eunice Ray. This spitfire woman is 70 years old and has built a thriving business when most people would be retiring! She was absolutely amazing and so full of life and energy. I can only hope to be a fraction of how she is at that age! So inspiring! A few highlights from her talk:

*All of life is about persisting and never quitting.

*Be “others” focused.

*Your belief needs to inspire others and stay steady.

*Having a “side gig” will be a NECESSITY over the next few years.

*Cast your vision and stay on your side of the net.

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Eunice with Kentucky’s governor Matt Bevin, signing the “Colonel Ronald D. Ray Traumatic Brain Injury Treatment Act” into law.

Also, this lady has done so much for veterans, which I appreciate so much as a family member of some amazing soldiers! She was instrumental in getting a law passed in Kentucky, the “Colonel Ronald D. Ray Traumatic Brain Injury Treatment Act”, that will help veterans be able to receive oxygen treatment for these brain injuries. Please go to http://hbot4kyvets.com/ to learn more and duplicate this legislation! Just another example of Arbonne consultants giving back and getting things done with causes they care about!

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Author and Speaker, Mel Robbins

And then came Mel Robbins! Here are a few of the highlights from her speech that stood out to me! But seriously, go get her book!

*It is your responsibility to make your future limitless.

*LIMIT yourself LESS.

*Doubt is natural but letting it stop you is a CHOICE.

*There will ALWAYS be an excuse not to do something.

*The power is in you. Close the gap between thought and action. 5-4-3-2-1 GO!

*Your inner wisdom is always there. Do you have the clarity to hear it and the courage to use it?

*Confidence is the willingness to try.

*Nerves are good, they mean you are trying something. The difference between nerves and excitement is what you tell yourself about the situation. Notice your nerves, say 5-4-3-2-1 and tell yourself, I am so excited!

*Procrastination is a stress reliever habit. When you catch yourself stressing, acknowledge it, 5-4-3-2-1, and do ONE thing! Then do the next thing.

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ENVP Miranda Burcham

Lastly, what I thought was the HIGHLIGHT of our entire conference, was our keynote ENVP speaker, Miranda Burcham. This woman is a powerhouse, fitness fanatic, mother of 5, and has fostered over 13 other children. She also spends a ton of time giving back to Haiti, building schools and helping with clean up after natural disasters. She inspired me, got me excited, brought me to tears, and had an incredibly long standing ovation. No one wanted her to leave the stage. It was absolutely amazing and I hope that we will have access to a shareable video, because her message was so wonderful and would benefit EVERYONE! Here are my highlights:

*Make your excuses your reasons.

*Don’t be attached to the outcome, be attached to the activity.

*Short term sacrifices for long term gain.

*Power of Deciding-gives you heart and grit. Everyday choose to do SOMETHING to move your business forward. Shut the back door. Success is not owned, it’s leased and rent is due EVERYDAY!

*Power of Invitation-Arbonne is worth more than a $10,000 envelope and you wouldn’t not give that envelope to your family and friends, so why are you keeping Arbonne from them?

*Power of Mental Edge-mental attitude is EVERYTHING. Use affirmations and power phrases.

*Power of Your Story-take your pen back and stand strong in YOUR story.

*Power of Pushing Your Own Buttons-Use your foot to propel you forward. Master pushing yourself.

*Power of Big Picture-Finding yourself in places you haven’t been before and finding the will to push through anyway

*Power of Grit-don’t be ashamed of the downs you go through, if you fall, get up and do it again!

*Power of a Comeback-Don’t stand down, stand tall.

Throughout her powerful speech, Miranda had her children come to stage. First, it was her younger son, who is obsessed with dollar coins. She told a story that they were at a baseball game and her son kept asking everyone if they had dollar coins and if he could have them. He didn’t get deterred if someone said no, he just moved on to the next person without batting an eye. Why can’t we, as adults, ask for what we want??? Don’t get attached to a no answer, just move on so you can find your yes!

Next, she spoke about her middle son, who wrestled in school. He wasn’t very tall, was underweight, and was definitely the underdog. But he never gave up and little by little, he started to win his matches, making a come back through his persistance. He went to the state championship, ended up losing, but instead of wallowing in his loss, Miranda found him in a pull up competition with some other boys and he was winning. He came out on stage and did 30 pull ups while being cheered on by all 16,000 of us. It was awesome!

Then Miranda said she was going to put herself out there and get out of her comfort zone for us. A few beautiful ladies, all shapes, sizes and ages took the stage and started dancing to our conference song, Limitless. All of a sudden, Miranda ran out with her beautiful pre-teen daughter and joined them, doing a choreographed dance for all of us to enjoy. It was just so amazing! Seeing her with her children, knowing that they are always watching us, and rocking the house along with them. It was a moment I will never forget and the inspiration that I needed! I always get caught up in guilt when I am away from my family, but she really made it clear to me that I am doing these things to better myself, creating a business that will make all of our lives better, and setting an example for my children that hard work will always pay off in the long run.

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ENVP Miranda Burcham and her daughter
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Miranda and her Limitless Dancers

I am home now, pumped up, inspired and completely confidant that the business choice I made in starting my Arbonne journey is still the best decision I have made! This little lipstick business is going to make my family’s dreams come true. Ain’t no shame in the side hustle game!

Here is a fun video of highlights from the conference! I hope you guys enjoyed this post, and I hope that if you are curious at all about what I do, that you reach out to me! I am truly passionate about this business and the opportunity it gives so many people who are brave enough to jump in and do something out of the norm!

GTC Highlights